Friday, April 12, 2013

We always have a choice...

First published over on 14 Secrets blog, but I love it, so I'll repeat it here!!!
"Honour that innocent monkey" Collage by Lani and textures from FlyPaper

I read this Love Letter to the World on Kate Swoboda’s site Your Courageous Life and thought sharing it might be just the thing!  I know life or people can be overwhelming, but we always have a choice...  And I really like Kate's list of options!  I think they might just be secrets to a happy artist's life!

“Whatever we see in the world, that is us, too. Cultivate a willingness to compassionately drop down into the zero center of someone else’s imperfection, and you’ll see their pain, and piece of your own. We are not so very different. We are far more alike than we often believe. With courageous hearts, we can change the world. So here goes:

In the face of complaints, look that person in the eye and imagine what it might have been like to be raised to see only what is wrong.
In the face of selfishness, wonder what it might be like to walk the world with a feeling of lack, of depletion.
In the face of insults, consider where this person first learned that it’s okay to abuse others.
In the face of disconnection, think about what causes it, and ask if your response will widen the river between the two of you.
In the face of laziness, recognise the fear of living big dreams.
In the face of extremism or fundamentalism, see the clinging, as well as the terror-filled silence that would arise for that person if they risked letting go.
In the face of controlling behavior, understand the chaos that must have bred it.
In the face of “always needing to be right,” see how often this person was once made wrong.
In the face of arrogance or bravado, hold gently that still, small piece that says “I’m not enough.”
In the face of drama or attention-seeking, see the person who wishes so much to be seen.
In the face of accusation, imagine what it might be like to live life with suspicion.
In the face of judgement or comparisons, step into the opportunity the world has just provided you for practicing love and acceptance.
In the face of passive-aggressiveness, recognise the child that wasn’t taught a safe way to express their truth.
In the face of anger, see the pain of isolation from others.
Most importantly: In the face of ferocious hatred, believe in the possibility that there exists the potential for equally as big, intense, lovely and fiery ferocious love.”


Art and Sand said...

I teach middle school and often hear my colleagues complain about the children of poverty we teach and how they don't seem to know right from wrong. I tell those teachers that they are right. The kids have not always learned the socially acceptable way to act so we must teach them, not ridicule them.

I love this and will share it with my colleagues.

Lani Gerity said...

Thank you Art and Sand!